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Each week I'll post a new coaching question for you to reflect on. I imagine some people will journal, some will discuss it over coffee with a friend, and others will ponder it in their favorite "quiet space": the car, a warm bubble bath, or on the hiking trail. If you'd like to share your insights, you're certainly welcome to.
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Yes, I can.
I am free, but I still struggle with it, because no = negative = conflict, and I run from conflict.
I'm learning that this isn't the case and instead of just saying no, I'm explaining how I feel and what I think.
My boyfriend and I are house hunting so there are times when I need to say no when he wants to yell "hell, yeah" (and vice versa) and we're both learning better communication.
I'm endlessly stunned that the word no doesn't have to be followed up by a tense interaction :)
i am free, but i still reserve the right depending on how i can manipulate the situation. my work is to let the manipulation go and just flow with life, but at times, i feel that i must guide the events.
it depends on if a person is involved that i have a difficult time saying " no " to, because of fear of abandonment...is this honest enough?
Lots of honest answers...
The freedom to give an honest "no" is a recent (last few years)...development...for me.
For most of my life I'm not sure I gave many honest, intentional "yes's" or "no's"—they were quick answers without a lot of thought (and plenty of fear or uncertainty built in).
Now I see that when I give an honest "no" to someone, it is not about them—it is an honest "yes" to me.
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